Who Do You Need To Be?

As I was reading my daily dose of Jim Rohn, I came across a line that jumped off the page. "All that you have at the moment, you've attracted by the person you are." Mr. Rohn wasn't talking about some celestial Santa Claus that brings you things on your wish list. He was talking about how what you have in your life, you have created, noticed and attracted to you because of who you are. Are those the things what you wanted? If not, my question to you today is, "Who do you need to BE in order to DO and/or HAVE the things you want."

Jim Rohn also said, "If someone were to hand you a million dollars, the first thing you should do is become a millionaire" When I say this to people I often get a reaction of "huh, I don't get it. Doesn't having a million dollars make you a millionaire?" Financially, Yes. Mentally, No. He was talking about was a mindset. You will need to change your mindset to one of a millionaire. You may have heard a statistic about lottery winners going bankrupt with 3-5 years. The statistic is that nearly one-third of lottery winners eventually declare bankruptcy according to CFPBS. This is because they have not adopted the mindset, behaviors, and attitudes of a millionaire. 

A client of mine was asking me how he could find and have a relationship with the woman of his dreams. He had been dating some woman but none of them were what he was looking for in a serious relationship. I asked him to describe the woman of his dreams. After some explanation of not only some physical characteristics but also her mindset, character traits, attitudes, beliefs, etc. I asked him, "Who do YOU need to BE in order for a woman like that to be attracted to you? Why should she want to be with you?" He hadn't thought about that. He just thought he needed to found out where she was and she would suddenly want to be with him. I continued, "If you were already the person that woman was attracted to, you would have already found her, or rather, she would have found you." I asked what changes would he need to make in order for this woman to appear and remain in his life. He began to examine himself and make some changes. He has now met and is dating a woman that is closer to what he was looking for. More importantly, he is now that person that she was looking for. 

Just like my client, we typically don’t think that we are the problem; that we just need to be given the opportunity. However, the problem is with the word 'given'. We not ‘given’ opportunities, we need to 'earn' them. And the way we earn them is by being ready for it. By becoming the person that is up to the task and sometimes that takes some growth on our part.

The good news is this. If we are the problem, we are also the solution. We just need to do some assessments, heighten our self-awareness and begin to makes some changes so that we can grow into that person we know we need to be. Start your assessment with the following questions:

WHO DO YOU NEED TO BECOME IN ORDER TO PRODUCE THE RESULTS YOU WANT?

• Do you want that promotion? Who do you need to be? What traits does the person who would get the promotion have? Again, don't think about 'getting' the promotion. Think about 'earning' the promotion. 
• Do you want to find that special person? Who do you need to be? Who would that person be attracted to?
• Do you want to be more fit? Who do you need to become in order to adopt that behavior?
• What skills do you need to develop?
• What attitudes do you need to have?
• What practices do you need to put in place?
• What disciplines do you need to develop?
• What actions do you need to take daily?

Take some time and really think about the answers to these questions. In asking these questions I am not asking you to be fake, far from that. I want you to become that person. Make it your identity. Make it something that people use to describe you. Do other people see you and describe you as that person? If not, you will need to do some more work on yourself. Sure, it won't happen overnight. If you keep up the practice people will eventually see you as that thing.

 Bottom Line

"Don't wish it were easier, wish that you were better. Don't wish for fewer problems, wish for more skills. Start making these personal changes, and it will all change for you. "